The Gift of Submission

I just want to put some thoughts out here for a second...

Submission is quite the gift to give someone... one of the most meaningful gifts ever. It's a serious honor to have another human being trust you at such an extent. The fact that someone feels the deficiency in himself or herself, whatever it is they are lacking, and sees something in you that can help fill such a void is an honor and a privilege nobody should take lightly. As a switch I feel so strongly about both sides to this. First, as my submissive side looks at it, none of us should just want anyone as a Dom just to say we have one. I have had one Dom, whom is a great person and very good at what he does, but was not the right one for me. I still had him as my Dom, nonetheless, and learned plenty. But, when you feel that deep connection to a specific Dom, and you know you can trust this one with anything, then and only then should you allow someone to have such control over you. You know when you have found that person because you naturally submit to them. I know I have such feelings as there is only one I will even consider, but unfortunately it's not a good time for the D/s relationship I want. Maybe it's also because I'm a switch, and I have spent my entire life caring for myself and others, and being nothing but independent, but I refuse to give such power over me to anybody else. I have already submitted to this individual naturally, and even though the D/s relationship is not there, I can't help but allow him the exact same type of control over me.

On the other side, as Doms/Dommes we must also be appreciative when someone wants to submit to us. As I said before it is one of the highest honors to have someone who believes you are the one who can get through to, and help him or her. Although there are also the subs whom just want to be owned, regardless of who the owner is, so we have to be just as careful on our ends. We must ensure that it indeed really is something within ourselves the sub sees and submits to, and not the natural yearning for someone to control him or her. If I am truly unable to help someone, I will not take the person as my sub. This will do much more harm than help. Of course, communicating all of these things is essential as well. I know the type of woman I have always been, I want to help anybody and everybody and would give someone way more effort than some people deserve from me. Since I recognize this and have had it fall back on me way too often I am even more cautious. Some of us have to be reminded it's not all about ourselves, but about the other person as well. I have to remind myself that although it is very much about the other person, I need to keep myself in mind, too.

Anyway, I think I'm done going on about this. I know I'm stating obvious facts, but it made me feel better bringing this up and writing some... Hope you all have a wonderful day...